Paralysis of Indecision: Exploring Internalized Misogyny with Jorja Rivero LCSW (3-hr Zoom)

Being indecisive in our adult lives can be understood as child-learned self-betrayal. As children, in our attempt to appease, be safe, accepted, and loved as children we inevitably adapt to expectations by freezing or bypassing our senses and deep emotions. Continuing to do so now is at the expense of our innate knowing, autonomy, creativity, and mobility.

As grown women we still may find ourselves colluding with this “bad deal” in hopes of obtaining safety and acceptance even though it keeps us small and unable to move through our lives with clarity.

In this journey we’ll be moving against the cultural agreements that tell us we should be at odds with ourselves, know that authority is always outside, make no demands, wait to be given to, and hate ourselves for even having needs.

To dissolve our childhood and culturally conditioned strategies requires an ever-present awakening that asks us to tenderly face our undeveloped potential and call it back home.

This in-depth somatic and reflective inquiry will begin moving us from paralysis to aliveness as we learn to not only befriend but take ourselves seriously.

The Paralysis of Indecision
explores how self-betrayal is a conditioned habit that interrupts our sense of Core Integrity, our wild knowing, juicy Psoas, and genuine expression. Living cut-off from ourselves and our agency we remains underdeveloped, dependent, and tethered to the dominate cultural.

Internalized Misogyny is not Personal, or just happens to us –

it is an Ancestral and Familiar Conditioning that we too uphold.
You know this deep inside when you observe your limiting beliefs and the many frustrating ways you undermine and override your feelings. Desperate to find a solution, you often feel the urge to hurry up and just feel good. Rather than develop the humble art of listening and nourishing to that which is in pain or in joy in you -to that which is deeply alive. No matter how much you try to convince yourself that life can’t change, something within keeps calling your attention…
but it feels so dangerous because it is. It is dangerous to believe it’s possible

~ Jorja Rivero

To grow our discernment and flourish, we start by slowing down, showing up, and tenderly receiving ourselves wherever we are in each moment. Only then do genuine feelings arise and creative possibilities unfold.

Referred to by Daoist Healers as The Muscle of the Soul, the core tissue of our physical body, Psoas, lives deep within the center of our being and is akin to our unique gifts. Often sensed as frozen or sedated this tissue alerts us to how we have been cut off from innate wisdom.

Rooting into Core Integrity requires that we sense our own being as well as the container that has shaped us. Only then do we begin attuning to a different way of being. Our birthright and capacity to feel and receive the sensorial language of Earth’s pleasures goes hand in hand with honoring our True Self.

Jorja Rivero, LCSW has a Masters in Social Work from NYU, clinical training in Gestalt Psychotherapy and is a certified Relational Life Therapist. She taught yoga for many years and continues to teach guided meditation inspired from the practices she trained in. Jorja works individually with clients, does couple’s work, group work, and offers workshops.

CONVERSATION: Available at Liz Koch YouTube Rejuvenating Our Inner Knowing As Women
Author of  The Psoas Book, Core Awareness, and Stalking Wild Psoas: Embodying Our Core Intelligence, Liz Koch invites  Jorja to traverse the terrain of “internalized misogyny” as it tethers women to Being Too Much, or not enough. How do these stories live within our flesh, blood, and bones? And how does the colonized top-down mandate shrink our worth and our capacity to flourish? Recognizing that although WOMAN is a force of nature and the portal of all human life, she carries a legacy of profound dissatisfaction. How can we awaken to the self-sabotaging internalized patriarchal constructs that literally live in our Soma? What can rejuvenate our inner knowing? Reflecting on our basic goodness and the innate goodness of life on Earth we discuss how nourishing our capacity moves us fully into our dynamic relational being.